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Ah! Sorry I misunderstood. I think I've had some similar experiences if I'm understanding you correctly now, and, well, unfortunately, when it comes to that there's not much you can do. It's possible your good intentions are being misunderstood (a shame), but if it's that they don't *really* want help, but to writhe in their problems or wallow in emotional stillness (which may well be the case), it's not your fault or responsibility. (Very important; you may wish you could have done more, or think you should have, but it is nigh impossible to help people who don't want to help themselves.) Hard as it is, I've found at that point that it's better to keep distance at least, since there's no point in throwing your own health at someone it'll just bounce off of. (In addition, if the situation isn't that bad, maybe they just need space? So giving them some actually will be helpful.)
Even if it should seem to be about all your friends that this happens with, my advice is the same. While there may even be reasons for their responses (or lack thereof), it's best to take care of yourself first, as it's hard to take care of others when you're not granting yourself the same help. It's difficult to know if you should continue or stop trying with that person, and I don't know enough details to give you the best advice (which you don't need to share with me if you don't want to), but I will say, don't give up entirely, and don't burn out your good will on people who don't want it. There may someday be a person who needs it, and you may change their life.
To be charitable, adding in positive notes doesn't seem to occur to most people, even though it really can make a critique more effective and balanced. I'm not sure why; it's not as if the positives will gloss over the negatives.
lawl, "doodle games". Good one. Games are on a weird boundary when it comes to art, especially considering there's sort of a point at which they stop being games and start being more like interactive novels. (I'm not really sure why we don't categorize more s
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